Success stories
Over the last 25 years, The Lasting Love Expert, Alisa Goodwin Snell, M.A., has helped thousands of singles get out of bad relationships, date more, date better, and get married. Provided below is a small sample of the things they have written to say thanks. Click here to read reviews from clients after just one Strategy Session.
You can get more attention, telephone numbers, and dates.
I used to think it was hard to meet women. Not anymore!
Your seminar and dating system has changed my life. I’ve been meeting so many women and getting so many phone numbers since I attended your November workshop that I’m having to up my standards for whose numbers I get.
Tonight, after texting the girls I went out with earlier this week and making a few new connections at the gym, I thought, “I used to think it was hard to meet women! Not anymore.” And the best part is when one girl turned me down for a date—I had FUN responding to her (all because I followed your advice). The compliment I gave her obviously delighted and flattered to her. Maybe it’ll get me another shot with her. But whether it does or not, she was impressed with me, and we both had fun after she turned me down. Since when was responding to a girl who’s just turned you down productive and fun?! --Only since I took your seminar! You are a genius!
Thanks tons, Jeremy
I'm an average guy, but I have lots of options now.
I haven't been to one of your workshops for a while now, but the advice I have gained from you has been so valuable! I see other guys making huge dating errors, like not reacting well when they're rejected and thus losing out on future dating opportunities. If only I could tell them what I've learned but without saying I learned it from a dating coach :-).
Anyway, the biggest problem I come across now is deciding whom I should continue to date. I'm currently dating two girls, but I'm very confused because I'm emotionally attached to one (whom I've been dating longer), but I am logically sold on the other girl. I am at least grateful that someone like me who is not the best looking guy in town (I wouldn't say I'm unattractive by any means) can have so much dating success by implementing true principles!
Thanks! You're amazing. Keep up the good work. Terry (Provo, UT)
I'm now dating the kind of people I really want to date.
I'm loving life because I read your book, changed my technique, and had lots of fun dates with wonderful boys. Before I read your book, I didn't feel like I was dating the boys I really wanted to date. But after practicing the psychological tips I learned in the book, the tides drastically changed. I had to practice for a while before I found the man of my dreams. But now, he has finally found me, because I was playing my role and he was playing his! I was trying to get out more, meet more people, be more flirty.... and BOOM! I am country dancing, looking cute, and there he was.
Thanks so much, Jen (Idaho)
You can get more investment and commitment.
"Just friends" is now more.
After talking with Alisa, she encouraged me to share my sad and hurt feelings with the guy I liked (he was spending tons of time with me but then showed up at church with a date--OUCH!). Gratefully, I've discovered that when I stand up for myself, unexpected loving things happen.
So after asserting my needs, he apologized profusely and said he was totally unaware of how I felt. This lead to an unexpected conversation about his feelings for me and how he wanted to date me but had concluded I didn't want to be anything more than friends. This taught me a valuable lesson—I need to assert my needs and feelings more often. Alisa helped me to do this in a way that appeared confident and attractive (rather than desperate and needy) and in return I got more respect, attention, and commitment.
So I am now in the beginning stages of a relationship. This doesn't happen to me very often. Despite having gone on a lot of dates. I don't know where this is going to go, but I'm excited to find out.
Thanks Alisa. You're inspiring. Karen (Chicago)
Wow! That was quick.
Just wanted to let you know that I’ve been fortunate to move into an exclusive relationship that feels right and looks very promising. She and I are extremely happy together.
You can share that with the class and add it to your list of successes if you’d like. Thanks for all your advice and help. James (S. Jordan, UT)
You can date good men and loving women (instead of users, liars, cheaters, manipulators, and beaters).
I'm FREE from a bad relationship and happily married now. THANKS!
I am one of your past clients from about six years ago. I don’t know if you remember me, but I met with you while dating a guy that had some pretty serious problems, including some signs of a personality disorder. While meeting with you, I broke up with him, and he ended up stalking me. You helped me through all that. First of all, I wanted to say that I really feel I was inspired and guided to see you specifically because you understood so well the type of problems that this guy had. You also understood the harmful effect he was having on me and why it was so hard for me to let him go. And, your approach of leaving the decision of breaking up with him or not totally up to me was perfect. I felt very unpressured, and that allowed me to examine my feelings and make a decision I could fall back on that when the times were really tough. After stalking me for a while and after I threatened him with police involvement, he stopped. I have not heard from him or seen him since.
And, I am now very happily married to a great guy and we have a little 3 month old son. My husband is very kind to me and emotionally healthy and it’s funny because I thank him for being emotionally healthy and he thinks it’s a funny thing to say, but I am grateful that he does not have a lot of emotional issues like this other guy I dated. I just thought that I would share this with you to thank you for the difference you made in my life at a time in my life in which I was very vulnerable. And I know that in my work as a in the health field as well, it was always very exciting to see the “success stories” where people had come back healthier after I worked with them. So, just letting you know that I am one of your “success stories”.
How do you thank someone that helped lead you from despair to complete happiness? I know helping people is your career but to me, it saved my life, so thank you so sincerely. I feel so blessed to have been able to meet you. Anytime anyone I know is having a hard time, I refer them to you! I wish you as much happiness as I have.
Signed, Sincerely Grateful
I bought your book for my daughter, but it's been heaven-sent for my son.
My son has been reading your book—I have to say he's gotten more out of reading your book than I was able to give him in all the hours and hours of talking with him ..... (even though I was saying many of the same things you've said in your book). It was like a "light came on" when he read your book. He's been writing you and is hoping to have you come out and speak to the Young Adults in our area. I hope it works out for you to come.
I just wanted to thank you for writing your book. I originally bought the book for my daughters and a young friend of mine (who was having problems with guys "falling off the face of the earth" when she was dating them). But now I feel I must have been prompted to buy your book for my son. Your words of wisdom have been a "tender mercy" for him, at a very difficult time in his life.
Your book is so important, especially for these naive - good - guys. I'm grateful you have written something to help warn them what to look out for. So many good guys get caught in these girls' webs of dysfunction and poor choices. My son was completely unaware of how these girls keep repeating the same toxic patterns, while making people think they are "victims." He wanted to help her, and instead, he only suffered under her manipulations. It's hard to break free of the effect these manipulations have on your thinking.
Anyway, words can't express how much your help has meant to him and me. From one mother to another, thanks! Joan (California)
Alisa, I'm Joan's daughter, and I wanted to update you. It's been a few years since my mom wrote you. Since then my brother has gotten married, and he has a one-year-old. He not only loved your book, he still talks about it. He is now becoming a marriage and family therapist too. He's so happy, and we are so grateful. From all of us, thanks!!! Sharon (California)
I'm now married to a loving women.
You helped me come to terms with my fiancee's addiction to prescription meds. Here highs and lows, rages, and irrational words and behaviors were difficult to deal with. The decision to end the engagement was hard, but your counsel helped me to move forward with confidence.
It's now been a year, and I am married. It is absolutely wonderful to be in a really healthy relationship (I have had a friendship with her for years), and I credit your book to helping understand what to look for and expect. I have told her that it would be a transition for me to go from the high highs/ low lows to a more level life and she has been patient. We have re-read parts of your book together and shared it with another friend going through a similar situation. Anyway, I appreciate what you have done for me and what you do for others and hope that all parties (including my ex-fiancee) can benefit and find happiness in their lives.
Jeremy (Ogden, UT)
You can get the experiences you desire.
I wanted to have 9 dates by 9/9/09, and I got so much more.
I was 39 and had never been married when I found Alisa. I had been engaged before and had been in several relationships, but it had been a long time—about 4 or 5 years—since I had even been on a date.
It is hard to believe I have gone from the point of feeling completely hopeless about dating and ever finding someone to marry, to being VERY HAPPILY married to a GOOD man! I am 100% certain that I would not be where I am today without Alisa and without APPLYING the principles and practices of her Dating-Coach program.
In April, I set a goal with Alisa during an individual coaching session (I STRONGLY RECOMMEND the individual coaching sessions) to have 9 dates by 9-9-09. This was actually a real stretch for me, and I wondered if I could even accomplish this. To my surprise, I actually began dating. Of course, not every date was a great experience, but Alisa coached me to set goals for each date that helped to keep my confidence up even if the date was disappointing. For example, one of my goals was to end the date first and to leave him on a high note. This allowed me to feel confident and in control of how the night was, and I was able to avoid that awkward, too-long lingering moment on my dates. Plus, it helped me to count the date as a success when in the past I would have been in despair about the outcome.
I DON'T REMEMBER HOW MANY DATES I HAD BEEN ON WHEN I MET MY HUSBAND . . . I might have been halfway to my goal. I did meet him online. We joke about this now, but he was just PRACTICE for me. At first, he just seemed like another average guy. GOOD men—the BEST men—most often are! Through dating coaching, I learned how to recognize a good man, and he seemed like he would be one, so I thought, maybe I can at least get a date out of this and get a little closer to accomplishing my goal. And as they say, “The rest is history!” But that story will have to wait for another day.
Alisa, you've changed my life. Thanks, Andrea (SLC, UT)
My friend recommended you, but the results convinced me.
I have to tell you why I decided to buy your dating system and how much of a difference it has made for me. My friend was in her 40's, had never been married, and never dated much. She is an amazing person but it just didn't seem like it was going to happen for her. When she got engaged, I had to take her to lunch to find out how it happened. She told me that she heard about your dating system from a friend. Before long she was dating more than she had ever dated. She had never understood how to flirt or make men feel great, and she laughed, "It's like bees to honey. It really works." She said that within a year she met her soon-to-be husband. She felt your book was a life saver and she couldn't say enough. She looked radiant, confident, and totally at peace with her relationship.
So I jumped on to your website and bought the dating system. I'm a divorced mom and didn't think I needed dating advice, but wow was I wrong. I can't tell you what a life saver your program is. I quickly saw how I had contributed to my pattern of attracting the wrong kinds of men and now I am dating more mature and respectful men than ever before. Relationships are so much easier when you are with people who invest as much as you do.
My friend learned to date more and secured the attention of her great husband. But I learned how to expect more from relationships and get it! Thanks so much! Teressa (Seattle)
You can get more faith and hope in yourself, your future, the opposite sex, and God's investment in your happiness.
It didn't change all at once, but when it did the results where amazing!
For me, the dating program didn't create fast results. But one year after I started applying the dating-coach concepts, I found myself back in the dating game. And to my great surprise, all my work paid off! I found dating to be a completely different experience on this go-around. I attracted very different men—the men I've always wanted to be with. My confidence in dating increased significantly, and my overall outlook on my future was bright. The dating experience seemed to come with more ease and joy. I felt like I had a whole new ability to relate to men in general.
Now two years after starting the dating program I am engaged to my best friend and have never been happier. Looking back, I feel grateful for the slow and lonely moments during that first year that allowed me to assess what I really wanted and taught me how to refine my skills in a most unexpected way. The process may not have evolved the way I expect, but God gave me what I needed the way I needed it and when I needed it. Alisa's advice has changed more than just my dating life, but my faith and hope as well. She supported me through the process while always giving me something I could work on to improve myself during the journey. Neither she or I could control when or how men would pursue me, but she never left me feeling powerless in the process. And now my fiancee and I are reaping the rewards of my hard work. Thanks Alisa
Kathy (SLC, UT)
I started getting a date every weekend, then every night. Now I'm engaged!
I want to thank you so much for your amazing insight! I am a school psychologist, and I recall one day after I had taught a social skills group for elementary children, thinking 'I wonder if someone created a 'concrete' dating 'social skills' curriculum for adults.' I heard you speak at my ward one Sunday. The advice you shared was highly informative, and it appeared fairly accurate. That following weekend I went to a seminar you hosted, and that is when I began to put your advice into action.
It was definitely frightful at first, but I thought to myself 'it is all about having fun. If you mess up just laugh and keep going'. I am here as another voice saying, "Thank you!" The skills and technique you taught have brought so much joy into my life! Once I began consistently utilizing your techniques, I had a date every weekend, and then a date every weeknight! But above all, it helped me realize what type of man I was looking for. The Top 10 list helped me see the amazing men from the good men that were around me.
I am so happy to inform you that thanks to your help I was able to realize where I was sending mixed signals, how I was pushing away individuals, why I wasn't investing, and how to make the other individual feel good about himself. Now, I am very happily engaged to a wonderful man - who I later learned also purchased your technique set :)
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your help and designing this product! Whenever anyone asks about my relationship and how it began, I have always mentioned the help your product has given me/us! If you ever need another testimonial, I would love you to share my story with others!
Thank you again! You have literally, changed my life for the better! Stacie
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*For your information: Alisa Goodwin Snell has a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and 17 years of experience as a counselor and Marriage and Family Therapist. As of October 1, 2012, however, Alisa decided to not renew her license as a Marriage and Family Therapist (which was in good standing with the Utah Licensing Board at the time her renewal was due). She is now focusing on doing Dating & Relationship Strategy Sessions only (for which she does not need a license). Any reference to her being a marriage and family therapist (in a previously recorded post, video, audio, article, or other media) would have been true at the time of the recording or post, but Alisa wants it to be clear that, as of October 1, 2012, her status as a Marriage and Family Therapist changed.